Updated: Dec 15, 2020
As I am writing this, it is turning into a cold, wet chilly day here in Northern Arizona. Yes, suppose to get some snow later this afternoon, but don’t think it’ll be much. Also, as of today, we have less than 2 weeks till Christmas, everyone ready for that? Luckily for me, I don’t have to buy many gifts and am not living in a spot where I can bake or get all my Christmas stuff out, so it’ll be another chill year which is always nice.
Anyways, since Christmas is approaching, it also means the New Years is just around the corner. Which also means, people are getting their New Year’s resolutions ready only to be broken a short time after...for many of you that is. Yes, I myself have fallen victim to this as well. Because of this, I actually created what I call The New Year’s Resolution Solution, a better way to crush your goals.
First, A Few Facts
Before I go more into what the New Year’s Resolution Solution is, let me talk about a few facts I found while I was researching this topic. The following facts I found in several articles covering different research studies. Yes, I cherry picked information out of them as I didn’t want to create a book on the topic. Okay, the first topic includes a few facts I found in those articles why new year’s resolutions don’t work. Except for the first fact, these were things I was already aware about due to counseling others.
35% break NY resolutions by end of Jan; only about 20% make it through the year.
The second reason they don’t work is people have “unrealistic expectations”
They tend to have an “all or nothing” attitude & try to do too much at first. They start working on all their goals at once
We tend to make our goals based off of what others think.
Next, here are the 10 most common resolutions created:
Learn a new skill or hobby
Live life to the fullest
Save more money/spend less money
Spend more time with family and friends
New Year’s Resolution Solution
Now, let’s talk about the Resolution Solution. I will go into some tips on setting realistic goals, but first I want to explain how the Resolution Solution came about. I am like most who set goals only to fall off the wagon after just a few months, then just gave up. And like most, as the New Year approached, I saw it as a fresh start versus what it really is, just another day and a series of days.
It’s the same mentality people have with Mondays. They see Monday as a day they can start fresh and so they let loose during the weekend sabotaging any progress they were making the week before. This type of mentality does not aid in increasing goal success. In fact, it can do it more harm. What I have seen in watching others, this keeps them in a vicious cycle which stalls any progress or just really slows it down.
So, I started thinking, how can we break free from this cycle and increase success in achieving goals? The answer is to treat New Year’s Resolutions like any other goal setting process and realize it will be an evolutionary process. Goals don’t have to be stagnant, by that I mean, as life happens you may need to tweak your goals, ie the long-term goals, or the process in achieving them, ie, the short-term goals.
Time To Set Up Your New Resolutions
Okay, first thing first. The Resolution Solution starts with taking a few minutes and writing out your goals. Here are just a few tips on how to set realistic goals:
Make your goals SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely.
Then break down those goals into smaller steps, ie the short-term goals and make them S.M.A.R.T. as well.
Ask yourself: what are your reasons for making these goals? This is really important. This is your motivation behind your goals.
Don’t plan on starting all your goals at once. Starting too many at once can make it more overwhelming and harder to achieve. So plan on starting just a few at a time.
Next, as you are listing your goals, list when you want to start them. Will it be in January or August. Besides the reason I just mentioned for not starting all your goals at the same time, some goals you have may not be able to start right away for whatever reason. But listing them will help remind you of them and so you don’t forget to start them when the time is right. Once you have your goals broken down by months, you can start each month with just a few goals to focus on. And remember, this is when you start those short-term goals which will lead to the long-term ones.
An example here, and is one I stress all the time, if your goals is fat-loss, depending on where you are at with your relationship with foods and exercise, you probably don’t want to jump all in. Doing a 180 on your diet and activity level can have a huge negative impact on you and your success. Now, there are a few people out there that can succeed this way, but for most, fat loss is more about habit changes versus diet and exercise, and habits don’t change overnight, it takes time.
Now, here are a few more tips to help you stay on track:
Define your support system which will help you through your journey and help you with any habit changes
Keep a journal of your journey. List what is helping you, what may not work and your successes along the way.
Celebrate mini goals. How will you do that? As you are setting up goals, think about that.
Also think about how will you sustain your new goals? Example, losing 20 lbs of fat is great, but how will you keep it off? Getting that job you want is great, but what will you do afterwards?
Review areas which may impact your goals. ie: stress on fat loss. These may not be things you can avoid, but being prepared for them will help you cope with any issues better.
Gather whatever resources you can to help you achieve your goals and healthy resolutions
There you have it, what I call the New Year’s Resolution Solution. Now, this is something I will be hitting upon on a monthly bases to help you guys out. I am planning on following up on through Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, my podcast and even here in my blog. So, if you are interested in following along because you have some goals you want to conquer, please follow me.
Stay tuned for more blogs on helping you create a healthier, happier, stronger life for yourself and make sure you are doing at least one thing today that will get you one step closer to one of your goals. Have a great day!!